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I Need to MOVE from my Mom and Step-dad's Home (But I Need to get my Benefits) [Jul. 9th, 2013|11:26 am]
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My family has been ordered to move by apparentlly the homeowners association and my mom and step-dad accuse me of "destroying the house with water!" I wash off my stuff when I get home because they smell and last night the sink upstairs wsa stopped up--my mom who told me to wash my shoes outside now told me when we move I can no longer do even that! In previous posts I mentioned my mom compares me to Howard Hughs for that, and I feel can't live with my mom and step-dad any longer!

I've been talking to my counselor at the LGBT center to help me move but I'm worried I won't be able to get my disablity benefits so I can move (my step-dad is the payee, I was declared by my mom as incompetent, but he's old and ill). I don't know if we're being told to move out of our townhouse because of my alleged destructive activities with water. What can I do?

[User Picture]From: capybyra
2013-07-16 05:09 pm (UTC)
The bedrock rule is: we're supposed to feel our homes are SAFE SPACE.

And that those in our lives are trustworthy. That said? There's a lot of open spaces in the situation. A failed sink can be caused by many things quite apart from anything "you" did or did not do.

Even though there's the open query of was it even thinkable... that your needs were or not involved in SinkFail- there's to me a THEIR FAIL in handling it so craptastically as to make you feel unsafe!

Washing is a matter of degree as to if it's a harmless comfort- or a true life problem.

And no one dare lightly judge one's comforts unless they become really incompatible with practical factors. If the sink was clogged avoidably Vs just a hair clogged sink being used to justify crappy life skills of folks "supposed" to be your support??

Teal Deer: It deconstructs to applying self-evaluation and reality checking about what's really going on here. I suspect you're being blamed for a mundane clogged drain.

I hope it works out for everyone's comforts.
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From: mel_pa
2013-07-24 06:18 pm (UTC)
I doubt my future living arrangements will work that's why I'm trying to move.
A few days ago I sent a fax via email to the Dayle Mc Intosh Disability Resource Center to help me move out but I screwed up by not including anything for them to contact me on the fax, I sent another fax with the original message but this time with contact information (I asked them to call the Orange County Center in Santa Ana and ask for my counselor) so far nothing. What can I do, I can't afford the phone call http://www.daylemc.org/contact.html and I have a problem with speaking (that's why I sent a fax--it's something written)?
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